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Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown


The realization that my life is filled with miracles is exciting enough to attract more miracles

It works just like that. The formula is really simple too. I wake up in the morning and look around myself. I acknowledge that what I have around me is truly a miracle. A place to live, clothes on my back, food to eat. Then I look at all the extras – the people in my life who care about me. The great friends and family that I have. The toys, computers, programs, photos to share, facebook friends – my whole community around me. This is all a miracle. As I form this perspective the feeling is intense – gratitude so deep and so strong that it feels like a high. This fixes my mood. I have everything I need and things just keep getting better. With this feeling inside of me I bring forth a winning attitude. Then the opportunities come my way and I don’t even feel like I am trying. That’s because I did my part at the beginning of my day – then I just showed up and The Universe took care of the rest for me.

That’s all I have to do each day is recognize that I have a power in my life that is going to show up for me. All I have to do is show up. None of this really belongs to me, it is all just borrowed and I am lucky to have whatever I have.

When I first got clean one of my biggest fears was handling my finances. This was not something I did very well when drugs and alcohol consumed my life and after several rehabs and finally some time clean I was humble enough to recognize that just because I was clean I wasn’t going to become an instant financial management wizard. Who knew I was going to eventually develop a company that does this for businesses :).

The one thing that seemed obvious enough was that if I wanted some peace of mind about this I needed to have a plan. this means a budget of some sort. Sure enough as I laid out my budget, looking first at my expenses and then at my income the mere act of doing this made a difference in my stress level because even before I knew the outcome I knew I was doing something about it and that in itself was enough to bring me some peace. Then once I had finished, reviewed it a number of times to be sure it was complete and saw that with the right job I needed to make $16/hour to make it all work I was relieved because i knew it was not going to be a problem getting a job paying that much, especially with an accounting degree.

Over the years I’ve learned and this past week I learned once again that the same is true of time management. If I want to be able to relax and get excited about today, I cannot be spending my day worrying about when I am gong to get everything done. I need a plan. I need a list of tasks (commonly known as our “To Do List”) and then I need to transfer those tasks from the To Do List into my calendar so that I know clearly when each thing will get done. This is how I get the peace of mind I need so that I can relax knowing that everything has been taken into account and that everything I need to do can and will get done. As I lay this out I may find that I just do not have the time to do it all. This is when it is time to ask for help. First I should have somebody help me with the “time budget” and if that doesn’t yield a workable solution then the next step is to see which task(s) I can delegate.

So these days I plan my month every month just before the month begins. Then throughout the month I am constantly reviewing and updating the plan. This goes for the time and the financial, and between those two I really do have pretty much everything covered!

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I need to change things in order to keep up with the Universe. The world around me is constantly changing. I am constantly changing. Sometimes it is a matter of dismantling everything, acting as if I have no plan at all for life and then from this starting point of ‘0’ I can re-construct my life with no past influences, no future influences, just what is in front of me right now. I lay out out in list form and then transfer the items to a schedule. This is how I get peace. This is how I find comfort. My peace of mind and comfort comes from knowing that I have some sort of plan for what I will do, when and how while at the same time maintaining the flexibility that comes from recognizing and most importantly accepting that things will change, and I will not always be able to stick 100% to that plan. I have to be ok with that, otherwise I get stuck.

If I find myself stuck, the best thing to do is start over, acting as if there is no plan and then re-construct. I can do this any time and as often as I like and I can get excited about the new beginning every time I do this, every day, every hour, every minute. It all comes down to one thing. Perspective.

Do you ever stop and notice your own reactions to specific things? What makes you feel good? Write a list of things that make you feel good as you notice them. Then anytime you are feeling down or off center, you can refer to that list and pick one thing to do. I like to call a friend I haven’t talked to in a while. I also love recording the daily motivators – maybe you can find your own version of the same thing? Write a motivating piece. Start your own blog – it’s easy and it’s free! Keep your list there – maybe it will help others? Paying attention means listening to others of course, but it also means noticing myself. All too often we coast through our day focusing on what is right in front of us, but only in the physical sense. We don’t stop to smell the spiritual roses. Do that. Notice how you feel and what lead you to feel that way. Write it down so you remember to do it again when you need to.

Paying attention goes much deeper than just listening to what someone says. It’s going past that and trying to understand where their dialogue is coming from. What got them to say what they said, how they said it. It will help us not to react as much. Someone may come at us aggressively when it really has nothing to do with us. They had a bad day – heard some bad news and it had nothing to do with us. Then we can approach people with a sense of understanding instead of being defensive. We will diffuse many situations before they get ugly using this approach. Instead we will turn negatives into positives.

Always think in terms of “how can I make the world a better place?” And sometimes that can translate to “How can I make this person’s world a better place?”

You know what happens when you start looking to lift the spirits of the people you encounter throughout the day? Yours get lifted, people appreciate you and they love your energy. Try it today – think of yourself as a motivational coach to everyone you talk to. In other words, listen to people and think of things to say to encourage them and excite them about themselves (which is most people’s favorite topic anyway). Watch the reaction you get from them and notice the feeling YOU get inside!

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