I hope everybody had a GREAT Thanksgiving! Please take some leftovers (or find out what’s appropriate to take) to people who are less fortunate so that they can have a meal!

Search Google for [your city] homeless shelters and you will find a ton. Call one and ask how/where you can bring some food.

It will take an hour or two of your time, but could add years on to the lives of people who can really use not just the food, but the knowledge that someone out there cares!

I have been watching some videos from Tim Ferriss and now I plan to read his book, “The 4 Hour Work Week”. I don’t honestly know about the “4” hour work week, but I believe already very strongly in some of what he has to say about “unplugging and resetting”. Watch one of his videos here.

Identify Distractions and create a NOT to do List, but don’t focus on the “Not” to do, just identify the items that go on this list for clarity. We are overloaded with distractions, checking e-mail every 5 minutes and having these devices that enable people to get a hold of us anytime, anywhere. I am guilty of this too! So here’s what I am proposing as a solution to help us reclaim some sanity.

  • Set your e-mail to capture e-mail only every Β½ hour.
  • Let people know that if it is an emergency they can contact you on your cell phone. Many of the messages which are really not that important will be filtered out this way.
  • Set up a schedule for your day that says, “these are the times I will be available”. Let’s say from 8am to 6pm.
    • After 6 pm I am at home with my family, reading, meditating, and watching TV – no cell phone, no e-mail. It can all wait until 8am the following morning.
  • The most important thing and the hardest one, is sticking to it once you set it in place. It will be difficult at first – I am having difficulty doing it, but I keep getting better at it.
    • Set an autoresponder on your e-mail that lets people know when you will be available to help them.
  • The end result should be that during the hours you are putting in, you will be 10 times more productive because you will have 10 times more energy to focus.
  • You will be able to focus better knowing that you will have the other time to handle your personal affairs.
  • This is how to balance everything!

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You can start today!

  • I am thankful first and foremost for G-d, my higher power, the spirit of the Universe, or whatever you would like to call him/her.
  • I am second thankful for my sobriety because that is literally what has enabled me to have this amazing life I have today.
  • I am Third thankful for my parents who have shown me unconditional love throughout my entire life. Even when I couldn’t see it because I was a bratty, spoiled teenager, they were always there – loving me, guiding me, and ready to give me the help I needed when I was ready to have it. Mother and Father are “God” in the eyes of a child. Remember that the next time you want to yell at your kids.
  • I am fourth thankful for my wife, who loves me unconditionally, guides me, makes sure I take care of myself, and most importantly she is ALWAYS there for me. I am also grateful that she is an AMAZING cook πŸ™‚
  • I am fifth thankful for the rest of my family. I would and do go to great lengths to spend time with them. I love them, and I miss them (they are all on the east coast or in other countries).
  • I am sixth thankful for all of my friends. Friends are people I really think of as family. They are the people I speak with on a weekly basis if not daily. They are the ones who form my surroundings. Surroundings I have worked hard to create based on everything I love, and none of the things I don’t absolutely love
  • I am seventh thankful for everything that has been given to me. All of the material things that make life comfortable. These are the things that enable me to be free to help those that I love because I am not worried about the material things I do not have – I am instead grateful for the things I do have, and I can be an example of this.
  • I am eighth grateful for the things which have been taken away from me. How does the saying go? Thank you for that which you’ve taken away, it frees my hands for the next gift i will receive? Something like that – You get the point!
  • I am ninth grateful for that which has been left behind. Everything I still have after everything that has been given to me, and everything that has been taken away.
  • I am tenth grateful for my awareness. The opportunity to pay attention to the people and the things around me. When you point out my mistakes, you help me grow. When you point out my successes, you encourage me to continue.
  • I am eleventh grateful for my ability to further develop my relationships with people, with God, and with myself. This opportunity gives my life REAL meaning.
  • I am twelfth grateful for the incredible opportunity I have to give back to people. To listen when someone needs an ear, to guide when someone asks for advice, to know when I am not knowledgeable enuogh to give advice, and to be humble enough to admit that. Generally being able to be there for others gives my life true purpose and meaning. It is those acts that will be left behind when I am gone more than anything else!

Have a HAPPY THANKSGIVING everyone! I love you!


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I hope to see you there

Where do you get your inspiration? Please post your comments here and let us know. This will undoubtedly help others who are looking for inspiration. I will post 3 places where I presently get my inspiration.

  • The first is from the people I come into contact with – I get genuinely interested in them and then I ask them how things are going. I will even ask them leading questions designed to get people to talk about what things are going well in their lives. When I hear what’s working well for you, it gives me inspiration – I feel good and usually I generate some great ideas for myself based on this.
  • Second place I get inspiration is from technology. As I explore the web or read people’s e-mails I don’t just read what they wrote to me – I look past that. My most recent inspiration came from that – I received an e-mail from someone I met at a Burbank Chamber event and noticed that she had invited me to join a network. I got curious about how she set this up and before I knew it I was creating a private network of my own and inviting people I knew to join. Sort of my own mini-Facebook but geared towards people I do business with and have found to be the BEST at what they do. If you are someone I’ve worked with I may have sent you an invite last night, or very early (about 4:30) this morning.
  • Third – recording these daily motivators. It forces me to consciously think positive so I can transmit a message to you along those lines. Trust me I am not always feeling this upbeat every day when I wake up, but after recording 2 or 3 of these I feel MUCH better. Google AVS audio, get a microphone for your computer and try it out for yourself.
  • Fourth – here’s a bonus one – writing. I LOVE to write so when I do it, I feel really good. If I could spend my whole day writing and getting paid for it, I would – and that is the direction I am heading in as I write more and more content for the web.

So there you have it. This is where I get my inspiration from. I do hope to see some comments here in the next day or so!

If all I ever do is promote myself then I will likely wind up surrounded by other people looking to promote themselves. You get what you give. If, on the other hand I set out to help others, then I wind up surrounded by people who are all motivated, like me to help others. Which do you think is more valuable to the world at large?

I’ve been talking a lot lately about surroundings, specifically whom I’m surrounding myself with. It’s important that I surround myself only with positive people. People who want to make a difference. People, who instead of complaining are looking for a solution. How do I go about creating and building this network of people? By using all of the things we’ve been talking about. Look and listen. Pay attention. Notice how people talk and what they are talking about. Are they dramatic or matter of fact? Are they promoting people or are the constantly warning you about people, or even worse, putting others down? There’s another important point here. When I go out I should not go out selfishly seeking people who can get me what I want. Instead I should go out looking to find people that I can help to get what they want. If you believe as I do in the principle of “you get what you give” then you can see very clearly where this path leads. What also happens when I do this is I find a wider variety of people that I begin to add into my network of family, friends, and colleagues. This applies in all areas of my life – not just business. With this wide variety of people at my disposal I am able to help more people because I know more people who have a varied set of skills among them. If I only search for people who have what I need, I end up with a small base of skills tied into my needs – a selfish approach. If I build a network of people based instead on what I can provide both from my own skill set as well as from my network, my network expands and I become more valuable to others. Now I wind up having an easier time finding the help that I need when I need it, in any area.

So I build my network with the goal in mind of helping others and what I get in return is a lot of people who can help me when I need it.

I originally wrote this on Tuesday August 12, 2008:

People sometimes ask me. Seth why is it so important to you that you and for that matter others have a good handle on their finances? Isn’t it true that money can’t buy happiness?

My initial response is usually something like… stand outside of a car dealership and look at the faces of the people who are driving out in their brand new cars? A chuckle follows and then I explain that of course money doesn’t buy happiness. I have a theory though in terms of how money and happiness are related.Β 

True happiness comes from being able to live truly in the moment. When I am spending time with friends, family – people I love I want to be able to be present. This means that both mind and body are right there with the people. I am paying attention and getting the most out of my time with them. It is when I am truly in the moment that I am the happiest. Usually when I am worried I am thinking about tomorrow. Most often when I am sad, I am thinking about something in the past. There can be exceptions, but the truth about this is where the expression “Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery, but today is a gift. That’s why we call it the Present.” comes from. Think about the last time you were upset about something. In that moment were you thinking about what was happening at that moment? Now think about the last time you felt really happy. I know for me at that moment I was thinking about how good life was and how good it felt. My mind wasn’t wandering, worrying about what might be or regretting what did or didn’t happen that I was disappointed about.

Aren’t finances one of the biggest causes of people’s worries? How many marriages break up over finances? How many times when things were tough financially were you able to go out and enjoy yourself? Imagine being worried about your finances and then going out and spending money. So no, money can’t buy happiness, but it sure can cause trouble when things are tough. If times are tight and I am out with friends and family how much of that time do you think is really spent enjoying the moment and how much time is spent worrying about finances? Out of 100% of maximum potential happiness during those moments, what percent do you think you get when your mind is wandering and wondering about the bills you have to pay?

So my theory is made up of 2 parts essentially. First, that if you have a good handle on your finances you can enjoy your downtime that much more because you are more able to be in the moment when you are with loved ones. Second that you don’t have to make a lot of money to be able to have a good handle on your finances. The second part often baffles people so let me explain because I have experienced it first hand. Good financial management starts with application of two principles. Organization and planning. Whether I make $30,000 or $300,000 or $3,000,000 really doesn’t matter. Bottom line my starting point in general terms is the same at any level of income. Income has to be higher than expenses. How many of us really know this for sure about our own situations? Unless you have actually sat down and drafted a budget, you can’t know. Not for sure and this is where the worries come in. My own direct personal experience has been that when I sit down and start this process I feel better within minutes. The reason is that the cure for the worrying is in the knowing. Worry comes from not knowing what the outcome will be, so our minds speculate and many of us have a natural inclination for speculating the worst. When you have a detailed financial outline in place then you know pretty much exactly what you can afford and what you can’t. Then it’s just a matter of living accordingly. The knowing will lead to a built in barometer for this. When I am spending money I know I can’t really afford to spend I am uncomfortable. When I know that I can afford to spend it, I am at peace and able to live truly in the moment – worry free. When I don’t know whether or not I can afford it, I worry.Β 

So I am going to leave you all with this. Once I know what the conditions are I can change myself to meet the conditions. If I try to change the conditions I will likely only meet with frustration. This doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be ambitious and strive to earn more income – if anything the opposite is true. In fact knowing exactly where I am right now is the best possible starting point for planning the future and then setting and reaching new goals. It goes back to the planning and organization.

We have to budget out time the same way we budget our money. With prudence. We have so much time in our day and so many activities we can accomplish. Of course the only way to budget our time is to keep track of it, which means we’re using our calendars, Outlook, Act!, iCal are some of the most popular ones.

In the October 2009 download there is a bonus video showing you how you can set up a calendar and build in projected earnings so that you can anticipate your earnings at the exact same time that you are managing your time. None of the calendar programs provide for you to calculate what you are earning in a given day. I use both – my excel template and my Outlook calendar. They work hand in hand. The outlook is better visually when I am on the phone making appointments. Then I go into my excel template and update what I had anticipated at the beginning of the month or the beginning of that week and replace the info with what I’ve actually scheduled and based on that, what I will actually earn. This is all tied together. Time is a resource, a commodity. We have to balance it out and also make sure that a reasonable amount of it is allocated for personal and down time. This is an area where I myself still need a lot of work because I am so passionate about what I do, so I spend an inordinate amount of time doing it. It’s ok, if it ever got unhealthy I can back off – I know this because I have experienced points where it felt too much and trust me when I say that I am very clear on one thing – I can take time off absolutely guilt free because nobody on this planet can ever accuse me of not working hard.

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  • Seth

I love people and I love spending time with people. I’ve talked a lot about lists in the 3 minute daily motivators because lists really help me. They give me something to refer back to for guidance because I am human enough to recognize that I don’t remember everything. So I have a list of the things I like in people which becomes the same list of things I would like to see in myself. I have a list of the things that make me feel good so when I am feeling down I can look at that list and just pick something from that list to do RIGHT NOW!

So the lists are great but of course I have to use them, which means I have to refer to them. One of the things I literally just added to my list of the things that make me feel good is spending time with people who’s company I really enjoy. You’re going to hear about this soon in a Daily Motivator. When I spend time with people I enjoy I feel good. I feel happy because it makes me feel good to be with people I enjoy. I feel useful because hopefully they enjoy my company as well. It usually works that way – if I don’t like someone, there is a good chance they also do not like me. Even if they do like me, after spending a little time with me they will get the sense about how I feel about them and they may or may not realize it, but either way they will begin to get the sense that they do not enjoy my company. Well the opposite is also true and as always this is the side of things I want to focus on. If I enjoy spending time with someone there is a good chance they also enjoy the time with me. When someone compliments me I feel good- I enjoy being around them because I like being complimented. So this tells me that there is a good chance that if I compliment others they are going to enjoy being with me. Try it. Today and tomorrow I want you to make an effort to compliment people as much and as often as possible. Conversely as soon as you find you are about to say something negative, I want you to hold off. Don’t say it. Instead find something complimentary to say to them and everyone else. Do this for 2 days then e-mail me at seth@nerdenterprises.com and tell me if your day wasn’t AMAZING!!

It’s really true that all you have to do is say it, and you begin to feel it. I can wake up in the worst mood and all I have to do is start saying, “I’ve got a feeling that it’s going to be an amazing day.” I begin feeling it right away. Then I can focus my thoughts on what I am doing that day – even look at my calendar and start thinking in terms of what I can do to enhance the experience. Maybe I can do something creative to make that meeting I have more interesting. Or maybe there is someone I am going to see today that I can think about in terms of what is going on in their lives so I can make sure to remember to ask them about some important event in their life. It will make them feel really good, which will in turn make me feel really good. Don’t just go into your day, plan it – make it happen, make it interesting and most importantly do EVERYTHING in your power to make it fun.

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